If you are engaged or seriously thinking about getting married, then congratulations!
This is an exciting time in your life and we are happy to discuss the options open to you.
Marrying in a church:
You’re welcome to marry in a church whatever your beliefs, whether or not you are baptised and, whether or not you go to church. But there are stipulations that must be followed.
You may marry in a parish church if:
- You were baptised in the parish church
- You have lived in the parish for more than 6 consecutive months
- Your parents have lived in the parish for more than 6 consecutive months during your lifetime
- You or your parents have regularly worshipped with the parish church for more than 6 consecutive months
- Your parents or grandparents were married in the parish church
If you do not have a qualifying connection:
If you cannot yet satisfy any of the qualifying connections, you could qualify by attending church services in the desired parish church regularly for 6 months. This is a legal requirement, and you will not be able to be married at the church unless at least one of you attends regularly. We understand ‘regular’ to be at least a couple of times a month. If couples choose to create a new qualifying connection in this way, we encourage them to play as full a part as possible in the life of the church community as they prepare for their wedding. It is our testimony that many couples find they benefit greatly from becoming part of a church fellowship. The church family provides a support network both in the run-up to the wedding and thereafter, and the Christian faith is a firm foundation for the whole of life, including the marriage relationship.
If you believe this is a possible route you could take to satisfy the legal prerequisites to enable you to marry in one of our church buildings, we ask you to begin the period of attendance straight away. We will expect you to join with us wholeheartedly for the whole of the 6-month qualifying period, and we would encourage you to come for longer if you are able.
If you have been divorced then a discussion between you and a member of the clergy will need to take place.
The Marriage Preparation Course is designed for couples considering marriage and wishing to build a strong and lasting relationship. The course begins with supper, followed by a talk and an opportunity for discussion. Privacy is respected, there is no group discussion or group work, and no requirement to disclose anything about your relationship. We know that every engaged couple wants to give their marriage the best possible start and so we provide marriage preparation for all couples to help lay the foundations for a relationship that will last a lifetime.
Topics covered include:
- Resolving Conflict
- Keeping love alive
- Shared goals and values
The course is based on Christian principles. However, it is designed for all couples with or without a church background.
Before the wedding:
You will meet with a member of the clergy to discuss some of the details, such as; what, where and how the service might take place.
In the days before the wedding day, you will have a rehearsal to go over the practical elements of the service.
A month or two before the day you will meet to discuss practical and finer details of the service.
For further information please contact Rob Poulsen, our Parish Weddings Administrator, at either firstname.lastname@example.org or 01562 822131.
Marriage Preparation Booklets:
- January 2020
- June 2020
- January 2021
- June 2021
- St. Cassian’s 2019
- St. George’s 2019
- St. Mary’s, Stone 2019
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